Jan 17, 2014

What I'm Thinking

I know I'm being actively quiet. I've written post after post about my life right now but didn't publish them because it just didn't feel quite right. I'm hoping by the time I'm finished writing THIS post, I can click "Publish."

I'm going through a refining process right now. I'm learning lessons I really need to learn in an environment that is painful yet not mortally wounding. I'm in a situation where the rules keep changing, the players don't follow conventional rules, and it's not fair. I could go into the details so you could know how crazy the situation really is, but it's a moot point. I don't believe the point to my refining process is to BE right. Peripherally, I think I need to truly believe in myself and in my rightness, based on the particulars, but the details of what I'm learning are still a little fuzzy because I'm in the middle of it right now.

Here's what I've gained so far:
  • My self-worth is not based on others' opinion of me. 
  • I am a mother and wife first. My work life is not allowed to dominate my personal time. No matter how much pressure others put on me. My belief and action in this fact must be internalized and stand up to all the criticism and bullying that can be thrown at me.
  • I have given power to others' by caring about their opinion. 
  • No matter what I do or how much I give, I will never gain acceptance or gratitude. 9 days ago, I stopped trying. After years of pain in my upper back and shoulders, I feel great.
  • I have been a slave to fear for far too long. Like Timothy from the New Testament says, God is not the author of fear but of power, of love and of a sound mind.
In the same vein but said with a smirk:
  • Never, ever back someone into a corner, believing your reality, agreed upon by those around you does not make you safe. There is a possibility that the person you are bullying relentlessly and shamelessly will realize she has nothing to lose and put things into motion on a much higher level.
  • Much, much higher level.
  • Study the labor laws. All the articles published on the web give you a sense of hopelessness. Labor laws can be used in subtle conversation when discussing the situation with people who matter.
  • And care about public image and relations.
  • And recognize the ramifications of the situation. 
I am no longer afraid of causing a stir or problem at work. I no longer care that I've gone farther over heads than I have ever been comfortable going. There is a possibility I've started a storm that I do not control the outcome of others' careers. They will hate me. They will resent me. They will be angry and upset.

But that's been my reality ever since I, apologetically, announced that, due to my husband's brain surgery, I could really and truly only work part-time like I was being paid to do. I lacked conviction in my approach. They got mad at me. My supervisors didn't support me. In fact, they passive-aggressively supported my colleagues.

I'm burning bridges. I'm making enemies. But, like I said, what do I have to lose anymore? But I'm standing up, alone. I don't mind it. My heart is not full of revenge or hatred. It's full of respect and love for myself.

I think that might be the greatest gift of all.

1 comment:

Steve Finnell said...

YOU MUST BE BORN AGAIN

Jesus said you must be born again to enter the kingdom of God. What did He mean by that statement?

John 3:1-3......3 Jesus answered and said to him, "Most assuredly , I say to you, unless one is born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God."(NKJV)

Jesus did not tell Nicodemus that he had to be born the first time in order to enter the kingdom of God. He said you must be born again!

Jesus did not tell Nicodemus that he had to exist in order to enter the kingdom of God. Every person alive, exists, how could that be a requirement to enter the kingdom of God? Jesus said he had to be born again.

Being born of water (amniotic fluid) by natural birth is being born the first time, it is not being born again.

John 3:5 Jesus answered, "Most assuredly, I say to you unless one is born of water and the Spirit, he cannot enter the kingdom of God. (NKJV)

Jesus said you must born of water and the Spirit to enter the kingdom of God. Remember in John 3:3 Jesus said "You must be born again." Water can mean nothing but water baptism (immersion). Water and the Spirit are both qualifications in order to be born again.

John 3:5 Jesus answered: I tell you for certain that before you can get into God's kingdom, you must be born not only by water, but by the Spirit. (Contemporary English Version)

John 3:5 Jesus answered: Amen, amen I say to thee, unless a man be born again of water and the Holy Ghost, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God. (Douay-Rheims 1899 American Edition)

John 3:5 Jesus said, 'I tell you the truth. This new birth is by water and by the Spirit. No person can enter God's kingdom if he has not been born that way. (Worldwide English New Testament)

WATER BAPTISM IS A REQUIREMENT TO BE BORN AGAIN.

(SEE: Acts 2:38, WATER BAPTISM AND THE GIFT OF THE HOLY SPIRIT....YOU MUST BE BORN AGAIN! )


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